the difference between boys and girls

"don't hate the player, hate the game."
i'll be honest, sometimes, i kinda hate "the game."
sure "the chase" can be fun.
it's the part when everything is new, and exciting.
it's when you barely start scratching the surface of someone's personality.
flirting is on full blast like the air conditioning on a hot summer day in good ol' sunny southern california.
every encounter is an opportunity to impress.
every smile gives you butterflies.
every touch is electric.
and then there are the downsides...
to be honest, as exciting as something new is, it can also be confusing and frustrating.
and not to mention, sometimes completely nerve-racking, especially when trying to figure out if the feeling is mutual.

as a girl, i almost can't help but to read into everything.
everything means something... for the most part.
what was said, how it was said, and when it was said are all dissected and analyzed in a feeble attempt at figuring out whether any interest is being reciprocated.
and that, my friends, is the difference between boys and girls.
i hate to say it, ladies, but we're pretty complicated.
we over-analyze just about everything.
we think too much about every situation.
we can't just accept things at face value.
for the male gender, however, things really are quite simple.
no hidden meanings.
what you see is what you get.
at least that's what i've learned from my closest guy friends.
the result is a complicated mind set trying to figure out a simple one,
and vice versa.
no wonder boys and girls can never figure each other out.
as girls, we turn to our girl friends for advice.
naturally, that makes sense.
most girls are closest with their girl friends.
the problem with that is that our closest girl friends are not boys,
so how could they possibly even relate to what a guy is thinking, much less know and understand it?
and the same goes for you boys...
asking your guy friends for help figuring out a girl is just as productive [or counterproductive, however you choose to see it].

hence, the beauty in platonic relationships with the opposite gender.
don't get me wrong, i love my girl friends.
they're amazing, and are my lifesavers.
however, i absolutely love having guy friends.
my guy friends provide insight that my girl friends can't.
they give me simpler perspectives that for some reason or another,
i tend to overlook.
whoever said that it was impossible to be just friends with the opposite gender was completely wrong.
it very possible, and is in fact, a wonderful thing.
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